A more empathetic understanding of the world: ‘This Book Will Make You Kinder’

In his most recent book ‘This Book Will Make You Kinder’, Henry James Garrett explores how empathy and kindness shape society and the world.

Cara English, Head of Public Engagement, chatted with him about what role empathy can play to overcome barriers to trans liberation and social change.

Cara: You talk about how your anxiety around interacting with strangers can be an obstacle to actually bringing about the positive, empathetic changes we all want to see in the world. What do you think are some easy steps people can take, without necessarily having to leave their comfort zone?

Henry: My comfort zone, due to anxiety both general and social, is a tiny place. I don’t think I could actually do much good without putting at least a toe outside of it. But, I would say that it’s worthwhile for all of us to think about our personal strengths and weaknesses while trying to make the world kinder. What you tend to find is that there are actions that would be scary for someone else that you find easy, and the things that you find scary are well within the wheelhouse of some other people. So, we definitely don’t have to all be doing all the types of work and guilt around that can be unhelpful. I’m sure with the campaigning work that you do at Gendered Intelligence, there would be a lot of people who would find putting all the information together, and learning how policy gets made, far too intimidating; and that while that work is necessary, it’s perhaps just as important to have those long-term, reliable people who respond to every single one of your calls-to-action, who fill out every consultation, email their MP every time, and donate whenever it’s needed. I think in bettering the world everyone thinks they have to be a leader of some sort, and that they’re not doing as much good if they aren’t, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. So, I’m not saying stay in the comfort zone, because there’s definitely a lot of uncomfortable work to do (particularly required of us privileged folk who never do a smidgen of our fair share), but I am saying that we have different comfort zones, and different barriers, and it’s ok to recognise and work with that.

Cara: I loved what you said about the potential evolutionary motives towards empathy. What do you think are the barriers to people being able to work towards a more empathetic approach or understanding of the world?

Henry: So the book (spoiler alert) employs this notion of empathy-limiting mistakes which I posit (ambitiously) as the source of the bulk of human cruelty. I also suggest that we could understand moral facts as facts about what we would be motivated by empathy to do if we were making no mistakes that altered our empathy. That’s basically the whole book premise right there, so I hope you still want to buy it. To get more specific, I suggest that when we believe something false, don’t know enough, don’t imagine things fully, or arrive with a warped or limiting conception of morality, those things can all stop us from empathising as we otherwise would; those things stop us from experiencing that very basic aversion to the suffering of others. Of course, we make those sorts of mistakes all the time with people we know directly, but the largest-scale examples of mistakes like those are the product of incentivised ignorance on the part of a powerful group. The barrier is often that it just suits the more powerful group to not empathise with those whose suffering they cause and benefit from. I think as our societies have become more complex, and the causal routes between our actions and their consequences have become more convoluted, it’s gotten easier to be cruel (though we’re still culpable for that cruelty) because it’s become easier to maintain that ignorance that allows us to justify our actions to ourselves. A lot of our cruelty is mediated through bureaucracies that hides it from view. So it’s about how we make ourselves and others look at things head-on.

Cara:  It felt poignant when you recalled that you’d historically been contributing to a sexist culture, and the role—however indirect—you felt you had to play in undoing this. Is it this kind of rallying against wider injustices and cruelties which you imagine underpin a lot of what we call ‘empathy’?

Henry: Yeah, I’ve definitely been guilty of contributing to a lot of oppressive culture, and I’m sure I still am in ways I’m yet to spot. I definitely think that the starting point for many of us in our moral, political, or empathetic work (whatever you choose to call it) will be looking at the ways we are participating in cruelty, or not doing enough to disavow and deconstruct cruelty perpetrated in our name, particularly where we hold privilege. And, of course, we need far more people to rally against those injustices that don’t affect them with that vigour they would exhibit if they did.

Cara: What effect do you think vectors of huge amounts of information, such as social media, can play in the shaping and reshaping of more empathetical understandings of society?

I think social media is one of the ways in which cruelty has become easier as mentioned above. It makes it far easier for people to maintain their ignorance (to exist in little mutually-reinforcing ignorance bubbles) and it also makes it easier to practice cruelty; it’s so much easier to believe that the people we’re talking about, and to, aren’t really people with feelings just like our own when we’re in online spaces (particularly when they’re part of such a small minority that we may not have met anyone who shares their identity in real life). 

But social media can also do wonderful things. Online, you can seek out the voices of people you might not have otherwise heard from. And you can listen to people from marginalised communities without demanding that they personally educate you, and because people mix their activism with their more personal life on social media, you also get a more whole picture of people than you would if you just went and heard a talk say; you get a sense of what someone is like outside of their role as an activist or educator. Social media can be very humanising in that way. Personally, a lot of the learning I’ve done has been online, so I have to say I’m really grateful for the existence of that form of social media education.

Cara: How important is it in being a better person that you learn how to really listen to others?

Henry: It’s everything. The line from my book is, “under the view of kindness and morality presented in this book, listening isn’t some nice add-on to being a good person; it’s the essential starting point. Through failing to listen, we cultivate the ignorance that limits our kindness. It is only by putting in the work of good listening that we can prevent empathy-limiting mistakes and reliably do the right thing.” The crucial points though are: Who are you listening to? And, are you listening with a view to believing what they have to say?

You can get a copy of This Book Will Make you Kinder on Henry’s page, or take part in our Instagram giveaway!

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NHS Legal Challenge to Address Trans Young People’s Waiting Times

Today the Good Law Project announced it was to launch legal action in an attempt to ensure NHS England adheres to its own 18-week maximum waiting times limit for young people accessing Gender Identity Development Services. At the moment, waiting times are as high as four years, more than just a touch over the legal limits. This has been a longstanding issue that existed before the pandemic exacerbated waiting times further for all people.

Trans young people, as with all people accessing any NHS service, are entitled to an appointment within 18 weeks from a referral. It is a scandal that the waiting lists have been allowed to grow to such disastrous lengths, endangering young people who want and need access to the UK’s only NHS service for trans under-18s.

We are proud to be working with The Good Law Project on this and any potential future actions that come from this legal action, and stand with Stonewall, Amnesty International UK and Liberty in asking that these waiting times are urgently addressed.

Dr Jay Stewart, CEO of Gendered Intelligence, says:

Gendered Intelligence warmly welcomes this necessary intervention to address the crushing waiting times currently in place at GIDS. We never have and never would advocate for a rush towards any medical treatment for young people, and reiterate that these unacceptable waiting times mean simply that young people aren’t getting timely, robust guidance or professional direction with regards to an exploration of their gender identity. We all intrinsically know that this cannot be right.

We know too that whilst the pandemic has certainly exacerbated these cruelly long waiting times, the issue existed well in advance of the virus’s arrival in the UK. GIDS can act as a much-needed reference and support centre for young gender diverse people, and these waiting times serve only to place further, major obstacles to going through those proper and legal channels.

Cara English, Head of Public Engagement at Gendered Intelligence, says:

The aim of our involvement at Gendered Intelligence is to highlight the waiting times and their illegality and to have this properly addressed so that trans young people can get on with their lives in peace.

NHS England have to realise that these waiting times are not going to disappear with no positive action on their part, and that forcing people to wait for years for a first appointment is an unacceptable outcome for all.

We know of and welcome the Cass Review, and would highlight that whilst the review will hopefully raise recommendations on what can be done going forward, this legal action is about the here and now.

We need to do better for our young people. As trans communities we need a wholesale understanding of our healthcare needs, and at Gendered Intelligence we believe this intervention is a key first step to achieving and prioritising just that.

The Good Law Project has launched a ‘Legal Defence Fund for Transgender Lives’ which will aim to tackle similar injustices being levied against trans people through legal advocacy and action.


‘Small changes, new direction’ following Government’s GRA response

Cara English, Gendered Intelligence, Head of Public Engagement says:

“After years of hand-wringing, the Government has today laid out its intention to make surface-level changes to the Gender Recognition Act. This won’t come as a shock to most interested parties, but it is nevertheless disappointing in its scope.

“We welcome the step in the right direction to lower the financial barrier facing people wishing to apply for a Gender Recognition Certificate. But reforming a piece of legislation which is fundamentally broken does not and cannot mean slapping a discount sticker on it and expecting great results. Historically poor take-up of applications through the GRA is unlikely to be improved in any meaningful way, with such fundamentally inhumane vectors of gatekeeping as the Gender Recognition Panel still in place. The indignity of having to explain — in detail — your personal and private life to a group of strangers will remain. The required diagnosis of gender dysphoria (by two doctors) will remain.

“Following years of public ‘debate’, no one was expecting a response to be made which addressed our communities’ concerns in good faith, and so most of us were prepared to be met with these platitudinous changes. The collective frustration is where we were told democratic tools of engagement such as consultations would be respected, only to be later told that the 70% of responses to the consultation demanding positive change amounted to not very much at all.

“The good news is that the wider rigmarole around the GRA is over for now. We can breathe a collective sigh of relief and move attention onto issues which more directly affect our material conditions. However, having a protracted, internecine struggle foisted upon our communities for what is ultimately a slight relaxation in cost means faith in the UK Government’s ability to protect trans people is at a particularly low ebb. Our priorities as trans communities in the UK remain improving our basic healthcare, tackling discrimination and hate, and improving our position within society. We at Gendered Intelligence hope that the Government’s commitments to reduce waiting times at trans healthcare services are a step in the right direction, and we will do what we can to ensure this becomes a reality.

“Earlier this year, trans communities in the UK were facing much worse: mooted plans to further exclude trans people from public life and robust healthcare were repeatedly ‘leaked’ to the press. In response, Gendered Intelligence launched #TrusstMe, a campaign to write to the Prime Minister, MPs and Ministers to push back on this. Over 44,000 people mobilised around this, helping make sure that as a country we don’t go backwards, even if we’re not exactly going forwards. Thank you to everyone who wrote and called their MP, and everyone who otherwise rallied around trans people.

“Baby steps seems to be the name of the game, however frustrating this piecemeal approach to change may be to all of us. But change truly is afoot.

“The coming months and years will see improvements to the lives of trans people in the UK, regardless of seeming slowness. Working together and with a collective voice, trans people and trans-led organisations will ensure that barriers to our full participation in society are removed. From Gendered Intelligence, we wish to say thank you for being with us on this long journey”.


Amendment for clarification: the changes to the Gender Recognition Act process apply only to England and Wales. Scotland has a separate and continued consultation process. Where we are able to work with our colleagues and friends in Scotland to improve on this devolved piece of legislation when the Scottish Government makes an announcement, we will do so proudly.


Phone: 07938 502 510

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Where we are as an organisation and as a movement

In the past few weeks, Gendered Intelligence has been able to mobilise almost 45,000 individuals to write to the Prime Minister and/or their MP. That’s not even counting people who have been writing en masse using, and other organisations’ excellent guidance around the importance of writing to decision-makers. As much as the word has become a cliché in the pandemic, this really is unprecedented. We are enormously grateful to everyone who did this, including our allies, and ask that you do not stop now.

We want you all to know that our work ‘behind the scenes’ hasn’t stopped there. Our GIANTS project is helping build stronger and empowered trans communities up and down the country, providing capacity for grassroots work led by our communities with the ultimate goal of wider trans liberation.

We’ve been speaking with sector leaders about where we go from here as a collective in this political moment, but it’s very important for us at Gendered Intelligence that we let everyone who’s come on this journey with us know where we’re up to and what you can do to help our communities.

Frankly, we still don’t know what will or will not be announced by the Government in the coming weeks with regards to the Gender Recognition Act or continued inclusion in single-sex spaces. We do know that the bigger issues facing trans communities – discrimination, lack of access to robust healthcare, housing — are of more acute urgency than any potential reform to the Gender Recognition Act, especially in the wider context of the ongoing pandemic. We’re not taking a ‘one or the other’ approach, but as a small charity with limited capacity we have to pick our battles wisely. This is why it’s more important than ever that we galvanise our communities to keep speaking up.

Where we all may have (albeit limited) ability to collectively shape the discussion around matters, it’s important to do so – this is why we’re asking you still get in touch with your MP, the PM, Ministers; anyone who may be able to ensure we don’t take a massive step back in the UK for trans people.

This is a wider movement with no centralised ownership, leadership, or hierarchy. Trans liberation will be achieved by everyone who believes that trans rights are human rights, that discrimination and stigma against our communities need to end and who are prepared to put their head above the parapet for us. The call to action is carried to all trans people in the UK and our allies. Where we as individual organisations and charities are able to amplify our messages to be heard in the corridors of power, we will of course take those opportunities.

We’re working defiantly and tirelessly, in hope that our existing protections as trans people will not be curtailed. As a trans-led organisation working to improve understandings of gender diversity and material conditions for trans people, we find ourselves quite inadvertently at the coalface of a movement.

We do not speak for you but, we hope, with you. At Gendered Intelligence, we will leave no one behind on our mission towards trans liberation.

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Our message to the PM

To write directly to the PM, please use our form here.

Dear Prime Minister,

I’m writing to you today as a UK citizen deeply concerned about proposed rollbacks to safeguards for trans dignity and safety in this country. On 14th June, The Sunday Times had as its front page an article on how the much-needed reforms to the Gender Recognition Act were being shelved. Compounding the trans community’s worries about this was that in the same article, prospective plans were revealed that would tighten the screw of exclusion for trans people from single-sex spaces.

The consultation period on the Gender Recognition Act was very difficult for the trans community – trans lives and dignity were debated as though a minority’s right to existence itself was up for debate. Still, 70% of respondents were overwhelmingly in favour of positive change. To ignore this would send a clear message to the country that engaging through democratic means does not lead to positive changes for the most marginalised. This would, of course, be a worrying message to signal from yourself as Prime Minister and I would urge you not to greenlight it.

The threat of rollbacks to trans rights, dignity, and legal protections in the UK cannot be overstated. I’m asking you to carefully consider the direction you wish to take with regards to the dignity of one of the most marginalised groups in this country. Please do not allow trans lives to be used as a pawn in a game they didn’t ask to play – trans people simply want to get on with their lives in safety and in peace.

Unduly excluding trans people from public life would be a huge step in the wrong direction, and a monumental loss to the UK’s proud human rights record. Please do not allow this to happen under your watch.

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Response to the reporting that GRA reform to be dropped

by Jay Stewart, CEO

The Sunday Times front page announced today that the, “PM scraps plans to make gender change easier”. The article details alleged plans to abolish amendments to the GRA.   

If true, this is deeply concerning.

We need reforms to ensure all trans people have access to legal gender recognition without the unnecessary barriers of expense and bureaucracy. All trans people should have the right to be recognised and treated in their gender.

The UK is falling behind other countries on this matter.

Remember the reform that we are looking for has already taken place in Ireland, Norway and Colombia and many other countries. Whatever the fears are, people should be reassured that they have not happened in these countries and that they won’t happen here.

What’s more 70% of the 100,000 responses to the consultation agree that reform is the right way to go. It is undemocratic to disregard these responses.  

In the context of #BLM and C-19, this is added upset to our communities.

Our health system is failing us with critically long waiting lists that will only get worse; hatecrime is increasing and our mental ill-health is being exacerbated.

At Gendered Intelligence we want a world where all gender identities and expressions are respected, understood and celebrated. If I have a message to trans, gender diverse people and our allies everywhere, I wish to channel Maya Angelou:

You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.”

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Blu’s Volunteering Story

For Volunteers’ Week 2020, here is our volunteer Blu on their experience at GI

I have been volunteering for Gendered Intelligence for a year now, having been a young person under their wing for 4 years beforehand. I don’t think I’m alone in saying that GI have been a family for me since the beginning.  

Before finding GI, I don’t think I understood truly what it meant to feel empowered. A few years into being a young person with GI, I concluded that the only reason why they had so much belief in me was because it was their job. I can now safely say that this isn’t the case. As a volunteer I am still caught off guard by the time and care that is given to my thoughts (and random ideas that I come up with at 2am). In a world that ignores and suppresses voices on an individual and systemic basis, feeling heard takes a lot of getting used to, but it has given me the courage to keep coming up with those 2am ideas and some of them haven’t been all that bad. 

In a world that ignores and suppresses voices on an individual and systemic basis, feeling heard takes a lot of getting used to

I think something else about volunteering for GI that has really helped me is it’s the first space in which I rarely apologise for things that I don’t need to apologise for. When working in an environment where we try to adopt a transformative approach to mistakes, it’s hard to entertain unnecessary guilt. This, teamed with never ending cart- loads of affirmation, empowerment, and celebration, has really helped me to know my worth and stand my ground. I feel more human than anywhere else when I’m surrounded by people who I can trust to challenge me and who I feel comfortable challenging.  

For me GI feels a bit like that thing where everyone stands in a circle and leans back on each other… 

I guess the word is “community”.

That’s all I really have for now, but I hope it sheds some light into how it feels to be a volunteer at GI.


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Volunteers’ Week 2020

A message from Sahaf, our Community Development and Partnerships lead, on Volunteers’ Week

In this time of uncertainty, our volunteers are even more vital to the continuation of our work. At Gendered Intelligence, we see volunteering both as a way to help us deliver our services, but also as a service in and of itself. It’s a tool that helps us empower trans people. It allows for us to provide community members with new skills and experience, and to create spaces for trans people to meet people and make friends. Both aspects are needed now more than ever.

Like all charities, the pandemic has had an impact on our organisation. But our volunteers have been a major lifeline. In April alone, our volunteers donated 30% more time to us than the monthly average. This was in addition to taking extra time to find their way around new software that we’re using for our remote service delivery. We also received so many new volunteer applications that we ran two inductions. We usually run an induction every other month so that’s a fourfold increase in the number of new applications!

But, we don’t just see volunteering as a means for our staff to get additional support delivering their work. We’re currently looking to expand our provision for adult trans people with a new area of work focused on community development and volunteering will be a key tool in this work. Our first community development project, GIANTS, was launched a week after the UK lockdown came into effect. GIANTS provides a group of volunteers with training on campaigning and messaging skills, along with continued peer and organisational support. Our GIANTS will then work within their communities, forming relationships and advocating for change, to create more welcoming spaces for trans people across the UK.

After a two-month long recruitment period, our first cohort of 20 GIANTS will have their induction this Sunday. They’re an incredible group from across England with special focuses on trans inclusion within faith communities, in sport, in education as well as their local high streets. They will be self-organised and their work will be community-led, informed by their own knowledge and experiences of navigating these spaces everyday. As the largest trans-led organisation in the UK, we can provide our support and experience, but they will be the real change-makers as they know best what needs to change. We’re all very excited to see the amazing things they will accomplish. 

As GIANTS has always been envisaged to be a project delivered remotely and online, it was crucial that we launched as planned. It was something positive and uplifting that we could share with our community in a time when hope was and is needed. As a trans-led organisation ourselves, we feel the impact of the current backlash on trans rights, as well as the effects of the pandemic, and we know how much hope and change is needed. Our work will always be driven by a desire and a need to improve the lives of trans people in the UK. And this would be much, much, harder without the support of our incredible volunteers. 

So from all of us at GI, I want to convey our heartfelt gratitude to all of our volunteers who put in so many hours and do so much for us. Thank you!

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Pride in Our Youth Work

At Gendered Intelligence, we are proud of our youth work service. We want to take the opportunity to go further in detailing our practices; we feel it important to delve into and offer more information about the age ranges and safeguarding procedures for the people our youth work service supports.

Gendered Intelligence is a charity that aims to improve the lives of trans people in the UK — we specialise in supporting young trans people aged 8-25. Youth work widely has a long and proud history of supporting children and teenagers in their lives as they are, and also in their journey to becoming young adults.

“My daughter and I attended the under 12’s group. This was led by professional and very lovely youth workers who went out of their way to make my daughter feel safe and welcome. The children remained hearing distance from their parents and carers at all times – I know this because they had to ask me to be quiet (the shame).

My daughter had a new lease of life after the first session and I’ve rarely seen her so relaxed and comfortable in her own skin. We can’t wait for sessions to resume. Thanks to all at GI for creating safe happy spaces for children like mine. “

A parent of one of our users

Since 2018 we have also been running a peer-led 18-30 group for young trans and gender questioning adults to meet together and find mutual support, strength and friendship.

We have noticed over the years that for young trans and gender questioning people, the journey of self-realisation can start later than ‘teenage-hood’, extending into early 20s. The need for support at this stage— from responsible and trusted adults and organisations — is vital.  

Occasionally, across our calendar of events, we have some sessions where we invite children, teenagers and young adults who are members of our groups to attend the same event.

For instance, our Imagining Our Futures sessions offer much-needed information about career and future family opportunities, information which is sorely lacking for these young people. We open these events up to parents, carers and family members as well as our wider age range and more staff. This creates more of a ‘community day’ feel than a youth group, with parents and carers being in the same space as their children and our youth workers and the session.

Our Context

We have been working with transgender and gender-questioning young people for over a decade; around 500 young people attend our youth groups every year. We provide a supportive environment where young people can meet others in a similar situation.

“When my son was 8, we started going to GI, as he was bullied in school for who he was. He needed to hear from and play with like-minded children, who would take him as he is. The first time we came to the youth group, we were welcomed with open arms.

GI is such a wonderful community and an actual, bully free, safe space for my child. He made some incredible friends as well. GI gave him the confidence to be him, unreservedly and unapologetically and they have given me the confidence I needed to be a spokesperson for my child, until he is old enough to tackle society’s pressures himself. “

All our youth work takes place in the context of well-established youth work practice in the UK. We are endorsed by UK Youth, London Youth and the Youth and Community Department at Ruskin College, Oxford , a leading provider of youth work qualifications, as well as by many other senior youth work practitioners and organisations around the UK. There are existing guidelines and frameworks which shape the work of thousands of youth groups across the country, including residential youth trips for mixed age ranges. We are no exception to this framework.

We often find, however, that we attract negative attention because we are trans-identified professionals and work with young trans and gender diverse young people. We welcome criticism or reflections where it may offer us the ability to further improve our youth work practice, but undue criticism on the trans youth work practice existing in and of itself is an obvious outcome of a transphobic mind. Hyper-focus on our professionals — who go above and beyond for the young people entrusted in their care — simply for their identities is callous.

This callousness is met instead with thanks from users and their parents, with one parent telling us:  

“I just wanted to thank you all as an organisation for everything you do. I know that you are such a supportive organisation, and honestly the whole of GI feels more like a family to me.

You’ve saved and changed lives, and I just wanted to drop you an email to say thank you so much for that, and I’m so grateful for it.”

Our Practices

Our work is funded by a range of well-respected grant-giving foundations, including Children in Need, the Blagrave Trust, the Lottery, Paul Hamlyn Foundation, Esmée Fairbairn Foundation, Comic Relief, Trust for London and City Bridge Trust, to name a few. Application processes are as thorough for us as for any other organisation.

All funders ask to see our safeguarding and child protection policies and on occasion, asked us to adapt them to include something specific. For example, Children in Need grants officers asked us to develop an e-safety policy, which was gladly produced and approved.

We welcome interrogation and questioning related to our safeguarding processes and practices and have a positive attitude to continual learning.

As with all charities Gendered Intelligence is governed by a Board of Trustees, who have responsibilities to ensure safeguarding is taken seriously and carried out effectively in the organisation. We adhere to the rules of, and are regulated by, the Charity Commission, which includes compliance of safeguarding.    

About Our Practices

At GI, we have been running split age youth groups as part of our services and we believe that those seeking to discredit our work are not representing the facts of our age splits in our work.

For clarity – our youth groups are split by age as follows:

  • 8-11 year olds group (with 7 year olds allowed to stay if their parent/carer stays at the parent group in the same building) in London
  • 11-15 year olds group in London
  • 16 – 20 year olds group in London
  • 13 – 20 year olds groups in Leeds and Bristol
  • 13 – 25 year olds group for our Black, Asian and other minority ethnicities  group in London
  • 11 – 25 year olds group for our Community Saturday, with increased staffing, parents and carers group running alongside and siblings in the same age range welcome to join in.
  • 18-30 year olds peer led group

As stated, on occasion we carry out activities with wider age ranges, including our Youth Board, Swimming, Pride trips, Imagine our Futures season.

On these occasions, the space is staffed with more youth workers and trained volunteers than usual and have strict policies and rules around how the attendees share the space. This includes: no 1:1 areas, facilitated discussions, and toilets separated by over- and under-18. Our workers are briefed in detail about supporting all ages to share and be in the space and all young people are supervised at all times by at least two workers. With the coronavirus crisis meaning our youth work sessions are now online, we felt the immediate need to put strict safeguards into place around our online work. When we host these groups, our young person attendees are not given the option to message each other 1:1 (only publicly to the entire group, or to the Youth Worker hosts). There is no way in our online spaces for young people to privately message each other; therefore there is no possibility for sharing of details. Entry into these groups is vetted through our usual Youth Work procedures. Our workers are briefed in detail about supporting all ages to share and be in the space and all young people are supervised at all times by at least two workers.

All young people under the age of 16 have parental/carer consent to attend our sessions. We communicate regularly with parents and carers over all matters concerning their young people who attend our services.

Our residentials every summer have 18 youth workers to 36 young people, which is a ratio of 1:2. Young people are divided into the following age categories for sleeping: 11-13; 14-15; 16-17 and 18+.  As you might expect, we have a ban on any kind of sexual behaviour and the consumption of alcohol on our residentials. 

Our swimming group and residentials have strict rules and regulations that the workers and young people understand. Changing rooms and sleeping areas are split into various age ranges to keep young people separated according to existing national laws. These age ranges are as follows: under 16s, 16-17s & 18+ spaces.

We always require that young people under the age of 18 have consent from a parent/legal guardian in order to take part in our swimming group or overnight projects. Before we go away or go swimming, we invite young people’s parents/carers to a meeting so they can listen to our project plans in full, ask questions and meet the team of workers as well as the other young people. For our swimming, parents and carers are invited to drop their young people off and talk to workers at that point.

Our safeguarding qualifications 

We have a robust safeguarding policy in place which applies to everyone who works with young people, including volunteers. 

Our Designated Safeguarding Leads (DSL) are Dr. Catherine McNamara who works on the Board. Finn Greig, the Head of our Youth Service is also a qualified DSL 

Finn Greig has a First Class Hons Level 6 Youth and Community Work BA, 15 years’ youth work experience and Level 3 Designated Safeguarding Lead (DSL) status.

Dr Catherine McNamara has carried out the following training:

  • Child Protection Training, Designated Safeguarding Lead update training, NSPCC, 2017, 2019
  • Organisational development coaching, Institute of Group Analysis, 2016
  • The Prevent Agenda, MASHEIN, 2016
  • WRAP (Workshop to Raise Awareness of Prevent), Harrow Council, 2016
  • Child Protection Training UK, Safeguarding Children level 3 (Designated Safeguarding Lead), 2015

The deputy to our youth service and residential programme lead, Jake Kelly, also works as a LGBT specialist support worker at Portsmouth City Council as part of the Early Help and Prevention team and runs the PCC’s LGBT Youth Group. In addition to this, he has 10 years’ youth work experience, a level 3 Youth and Community Work qualification, a Masters in Applied Theatre and 6 years’ experience working in various school settings, including Head of Inclusion at a large secondary school in Hampshire.   

In terms of external review or contributions on specific issues, our work is informed by safeguarding and child protection expert Ann Marie Christian. Ann Marie helps schools, organisations, charities, churches and childcare settings to implement their statutory duty and responsibility in keeping children safe. She set up Child 1st Consultancy Limited in 2010 after working for a local authority in frontline child protection since 1996. She works in partnership with colleagues in various settings and supports them in offering bespoke intense support via training and consultancy.

We do not require our youth workers or mentors to have qualifications around psychotherapy, but some of them do. Indeed, some are therapists or counsellors in other aspects of their professional lives. They all have at least a level 2 or level 3 qualification in Youth and Community work, or are working towards them. The youth workers are also situated in a growing interdisciplinary team in the Youth and Communities Services, where we also carry out therapeutic practices.

Misdirected influences

Recently, we have noted an increase in members of the public saying that they have “safeguarding concerns” about Gendered Intelligence. This is not to mean there are any genuine areas of concern with our policies and practices, but as a way of suggesting that where trans adults carry out youth work with young people, there must be a nefarious aim. Thankfully, simply saying “safeguarding concern!” repeatedly and loudly will not bring one into actual existence: we are proud that our safeguarding policies are commendable and watertight.

We find that the assertion that our policies are unsuitable to be a mendacious one, often made in bad faith by people who would like our unique and necessary youth work programmes to no longer exist. It is unfortunate that these accusations mean we have to redirect our energies to protect our young people from even more loud voices. We would much rather use our limited resources to support our users to flourish as individuals. If there is a silver lining, it is that insidious and transphobic invective directed at us stands to strengthen the case that there is an acute need for Gendered Intelligence’s youth work output.

Safe spaces and working with young trans people

You may be aware that trans, non-binary and gender diverse children and young people face significant barriers to living the safe and care-free life that young people deserve. They face bullying and harassment at school or college, in public life and sometimes at home too. This often leads to poor mental health and low self-confidence. 

According to research by Stonewall, almost two thirds of trans pupils are bullied for being trans at school. Whilst we at Gendered Intelligence cannot confirm these exact figures with great certainty, we know from the young people who attend our services that anti-trans bullying is both prolific and rife.

However, with the right support, young trans people can flourish. 

Our support of young people sits within an established and recognised youth work practice framework. Through our youth work, we support young people to: improve their social networks and reduce isolation; achieve a sense of self-empowerment; increase confidence and build resilience. 

When young people come to our youth groups, they find recognition, understanding and validation. They leave feeling seen, with new friends and a sense of pride.

We recently asked a young transgender person, aged 9, what made him proud about being part of our 8-11 youth group. He said: “It feels like I’m part of something, a bunch of special people. Before I felt like I was nothing.” Our youth work practice exists so no child feels themselves to be “nothing”.

Creating a safe space for young people who identify as trans or are questioning their gender identity is at the core of our youth work.

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What is an irreversible decision?

As part of our newly-launched BAEB campaign, Gendered Intelligence CEO, Dr Jay Stewart has written on the idea of bodily autonomy for trans people.

Who has the right to bodily autonomy?

In a film called Gendernauts by Monika Treut, (1999), trans historian Susan Stryker said:

It’s been a really powerful way of feeling that I’m in control of my own body, that it’s like saying: my body belongs to me and I’m going to do with it as I choose… I have the right or the ability to exercise complete control over this flesh. I live here. I don’t rent, I’m not borrowing it from someone. I didn’t have to pay a damage deposit. It’s mine. To do with it as I see fit. … [it’s] my responsibility. (Monika Treut 1999– interview with Susan Stryker)

This was the single most important utterance that I had heard when I was developing an understanding of my own gender, and emerging trans identity at the turn of the millennium. The principle of bodily autonomy as a human right is stated clearly. I am in my own body. It is mine. And it is ultimately my responsibility. There is a sense of graveness but also freedom in this revelation.

Bodies are also routinely regulated by the state and societal norms pervade our thinking in relation to our own bodies and indeed in the way that we judge and police other bodies. So, I recognise the tensions between freedom and constraint. Nonetheless in contemporary discourse when it comes to trans adults’ lives the sentiment of bodily autonomy is appreciated widely. But what about people who are under 18 years old? Do they have a right to bodily autonomy?

On 22nd April, Minister for Women and Equalities Liz Truss, gave evidence to the Women and Equalities Select Committee. Here she set out her priorities for the Government Equalities Office. In response to the reform to the Gender Recognition Act, she stated:

“…not a direct issue concerning the Gender Recognition Act, but [one which] is relevant, [is] making sure that the under 18s are protected from decisions that they could make, that are irreversible in the future. I believe strongly that adults should have the freedom to lead their lives as they see fit, but I think it’s very important that while people are still developing their decision-making capabilities that we protect them from making those irreversible decisions.”

What is an irreversible decision?

Being a legal adult means something in society. It means the ability to take responsibility for your actions. Children are granted differing levels of responsibility which builds throughout childhood and teenage life before developing into an independent adulthood. With this comes degrees of freedom and opportunity to take decisions  which is generated from demonstrating an ability to take ownership of  responsibilities. It’s an iterative process.

For instance, I have ten year old twins and for Christmas last year one of my children wanted an iPhone 11 pro, whilst the other wanted a snake. Having your own smartphone (we settled on an iPhone 7) is a key moment in a child’s and indeed their carer’s/parent’s life. As they step into their own digital social world, I worry. It’s important that I learn about what’s involved – what are the risks? Of course, my constant thought is that I want to protect my child. Allowing my child to have a smartphone involves ongoing conversations about trust. We agree some basic rules. We equip ourselves and educate ourselves about how to keep safe and my child must embrace the responsibility that is involved in having a smart phone.

Now, what about the snake – well that’s another dilemma. Will the child look after it, feed, clean out its vivarium? Will the child take responsibility? In addition to this, did you know corn snakes live ‘til they’re 20 and that potentially would make my child will be 30 by the time it dies? That’s quite a commitment for a 10-year-old. However, giving a child an opportunity to be responsible is part of watching them grow. And of course, as responsible adults we are the back-up plan; we are there to catch our young people if they need us.

Entering teenage years the journey continues towards independence. Choosing GCSEs, A or T Levels, who to be friends with, who to break friends with, ear and other piercings, emerging sexualities and life experimentation. Decisions are happening all of the time. Which ones can be categorised as ‘irreversible’ is hard to say.

Okay, so let’s talk about gender

So, how does this relate to gender? Currently when we are born we are given a gender – an emphatic ‘it’s a boy’ or ‘it’s a girl’. That decision is based on genitalia. Each of us has no say in the gender that we are given. One could argue that it’s the first non-consensual act.  We think of ‘being a boy’ or ‘being a girl’ as a very normal part of human existence, natural even. However we don’t have to dig too deep to know that gender is a fundamental aspect of social life and there are deeply embedded social expectations to behave in particular ways based on the gender that we have been given.

What if you don’t behave in these particular ways? Or can’t? What can a person do?

At Gendered Intelligence we run groups for young people who feel that the gender that was given to them (the gender that they didn’t choose), doesn’t feel right to them. Being trans is an identity category or label that some individuals— including young people— take on for themselves. It is a word that we use to explain something about our gender where we are saying ‘hang on folks! The gender that you’re putting on me – it’s not right. It doesn’t feel right.’

Some individuals will use this term about themselves and feel empowered. Finally we are able to communicate something about our sense of self, about our inner feelings to the world around us, including our loved ones and family members.

Some will try on the label and take it off again – it’s not for them after all. Young people are welcome to come to GI to explore their gender and if they find that actually they come to the conclusion that they’re not trans, then of course that’s okay too. No judgement on the proverbial journey!

It’s not for anyone else to tell another person that they’re trans, or indeed that they’re not.

Being trans or becoming trans involves a process of self-determination. Not all identity categories work this way. I think sexual orientation also involves a process of self-determination in the sense that an individual might say, “I’m a lesbian. That description helps me to organise and communicate my principle desires for other women”. Not that people actually talk like that!

The problem with society is that being trans, like being lesbian, gay or bisexual, involves us saying ‘hey, I’m not the thing others have put on me and assumed me to be. I am different to that’. Despite strides made by the LGBT rights movement over the past decades, society continues to assume a person is heterosexual until they tell us otherwise. Likewise, we assume that a person, a baby born and a child growing up, is okay with the gender that they’ve been given or at least that they don’t have any intentions to change it (we often call this cisgender). In short, LGBT people go against the ‘norm’.

So, here we are at the crunch point – let’s imagine there is a person under the age of 18, who is telling the people around them that they do not feel themselves to be the gender that they have been given  – what actual decisions are ahead of them? And who is making them?

What is an irreversible decision? Or where may the harm lie?

Truss’s concern around individuals making ‘irreversible’ decisions is a hangover from a medically framed model of being trans. When a trans person chooses to have medical intervention, they do this in dialogue with a health practitioner who is a specialist in gender care. The doctors’ code of ‘do no harm’ provides an ethical dilemma around balancing the rights of an individual to bodily autonomy and the ability to take responsibility for themselves, with that of the duty of care a statutory funded health practitioner has to their patient.

One way doctors have dealt with this is to differentiate the treatments between that which is ‘reversible’ from that which is considered to be ‘irreversible’.  Before a person undergoes any kind of medical treatment via a Gender Identity Clinic or a Gender Identity Development Service (GIDS), they will carry out social actions that are changeable, moveable and if wanted also reversible. They are not fixed acts. For instance, to start using a different name, to try it out and seeing how it feels   As a person goes about their daily life, they might try to experiment with their gender expression – clothes, haircuts, make up, or with their mannerisms, walk, voice etc. There is a lot in social life that a person can change if they wish to – all of which are not harmful and are, if you choose to think of it this way, ‘irreversible’.

This is about experimenting with the ways in which our expression feels authentic to us as individuals, where we feel that we are being most real, where we feel settled in our self (as much as possible anyhow – I’m being cautious here if we are to recognise the complexities of a world that highly regulates body image, as indeed, we regulate those of others).

Trans people, including those under 18, should be – and indeed are – free to change any of these social aspects of what we would call ‘gender’. This is because we have the right to be able to autonomously express ourselves and that should be respected.

It is in the refusal to respect a trans person’s wishes where harm is caused. And yet, to use a trans person’s name and pronoun can be such a small act on the part of those around us and the difference can be so very validating for us.  And if a person changes their name and pronoun again, or returns to a previous one, or goes onto wear a totally different style of clothes again, or in anyway reflects a different gender expression again, then that’s all perfectly acceptable. It all forms part of the rich tapestry of diverse life. The more openness to explore the better for everyone.

Likewise if a person feels confident with their name and they want to change important documents they can do that – there are processes to change names on passports, getting a deedpoll, changing names on exam certificates and if the person needs to change their name again and again, going back to their previous gender marker, then it is entirely possible – it is reversible, if you choose to think about it like that.

So what about body changes?

Families and young people who attend the Gender Identity Development Service (GIDS) will discuss options around the treatment that will change their bodies. Some children (usually around 10-12 years old) might explore puberty blocking treatment. For anyone younger than this, there is no hormone treatment or medical intervention of any kind. Puberty blocking treatment is reversible in the sense that when administered it stops puberty progressing and, if treatment stops, puberty kicks back in (like pressing the pause button – this is how it is currently understood).

For 16 year olds who want their bodies to masculinise through testosterone or feminise through oestrogen (sometimes called cross sex hormones) they will need to have been on puberty blockers for at least a year. Remember -sixteen is the age that a person can access health services and administer medicines without consent from their legal guardian; they can also get married, pregnant and join the army – all pretty responsible stuff.

So here we have a picture –  a young person and their legal guardians have been in GIDS services for some time, they will have attended several appointments, talked about their relationship to gender and what they would like to happen; they will have had the opportunity to explore and express their gender in everyday life and be continuing to do that; they may have made some changes to their identity documentation, been put on puberty blockers and, at the age of 16, go on cross sex hormones. At 18, they may consider surgery – as Liz Truss MP says, they would “have the freedom to lead their lives as they see fit”.

GIDS is there to provide a space to discuss and explore – what does the young person want, what do the family members think, what are some of the concerns everyone has, what do we know about the choices that are available? It’s important that there is space for discussion, exploration and to get the right information in order to support decision making. Parents and carers are involved.  Staff in schools are involved. Sometimes Children and Adolescent Mental Health Services (CAMHS) are involved. Therapists and counsellors are involved. Gendered Intelligence, along with a whole number of LGBT charitable and voluntary sector organisations, may be  involved. We make up a collective of professionals around the child – thinking about what is in the child’s best interests, safeguarding them, holding them at the centre, listening to their wishes, supporting them in the respective roles that we have, asking ourselves ‘where the harm lie?’ We each bear our own responsibilities here, and recognise that the young person has responsibilities too. No one is rushing (in fact waiting lists are long!) There are no quick decisions made out of nowhere.

There is always a context – an iterative process of decision making.

We need to do away with the false dichotomy of ‘reversible’ and ‘irreversible’ when talking about young trans people and decision making. It’s not useful. What is useful is for adults to process their fears of gifting children their right to autonomy. We all know that young people thrive when given responsibility. We also know that, as adults, we should be supporting and reassuring young people, providing a safety net beneath them, working with them.

Trans, gender questioning and gender diverse people, especially those under 18 years of age, need more support not less. We need less judgement, not more.